For a couple to be happy, two healthy people are needed
Dr. Roberto Miranda
SUMMARY: To have a healthy relationship, it is important to first heal our concept of ourselves and accept ourselves as we are. Insecure individuals often enter relationships hoping the other person will validate them, leading to failure. Two healthy individuals should come together, both secure in God and with a healed ego. It's important to ask God to heal us emotionally and accept ourselves with our virtues, defects, mistakes, and wounds. Insecurity can lead to hypersensitivity and a negative outlook on others, while healthy individuals approach life with ease and naturalness. Accept yourself, seek your health in God, and think of yourself with sanity.
It is very important that we heal our concept of ourselves and that we see ourselves accepted in God. That is why so many marriages fail: Two insecure people meet and believe that one is going to satisfy the other's hunger for validation. Or an insecure one meets a fairly secure person and the insecure wants that that insurance cover him and heal his wound and tell him: “You are worth it” and that he look through his eyes and that he bring him the slippers at the end of the day when he comes back from work, and that he make him his favorite food every days, and he wants to turn that person into his worshiper because it is an insecurity that is killing him, because he does not accept himself.
For a couple to be happy, two healthy people are needed. They talk about the concept of 'my better half'; what is needed is two oranges to juice together, whole. Because two half oranges, if you try to join them, no two oranges are made the same; if you try to join them you will see the joint. I believe that two healthy oranges have to come to the marriage, whole that bless each other in their health. Two oranges, a man and a woman secure in God, solid in God, with a healed, healthy ego of “I am as I am, and God loves me that way. I am deformed, perhaps a little fetish, smaller than I would like or skinnier but God loves me ”, and then with his health he blesses his wife and his wife blesses him.
We have to ask the Lord, Lord heal me emotionally. That I can accept myself as I am, with my virtues and my defects, with my past, with my mistakes, with my flaws, with the things that were done to me, with my wounds and saying that is what a life does. No one in this place can tell me that he has not had injuries in his life, that he has not received abuse, that he has not made serious mistakes, that he has no physical or emotional or spiritual defects. We are all in the same situation and the only difference is that some find balance in that and others live distorted and unbalanced, because they have not found that ability to accept themselves as God accepts them. For this reason, many times our human relationships are always being hurt and distorted because an unbalanced and sickly being damages everything it touches and that insecurity then leads us to, in any small offense or mistake from our friends, we immediately see something of unforgivable magnitude. , and we are hypersensitive. We are always hoping that they will stick the knife in our back because that is our vision of the people, and that makes the prophecy come true because sooner or later they do to us what we expect them to do to us. Whereas when the person approaches relationships with ease, with health, with expectation of blessing, with naturalness, people discover that there are many good things in others.
Why are so many people who fail in human relationships? Because they hope to fail or because there is some insecurity in them that leads them to hurt and hurt themselves. While there are others who naturally approach life and treat others and come out of the worst situations unscathed because they are healthy within them, and they take life and knock it down and get up because they are made of rubber. They are like those strong little children who jump in to play and nudge each other, scratch their elbows but come back again, and jump over homework again because they are healthy.
Accept yourself, seek your health in God and think of yourself with sanity. It is important that we accept ourselves as we are.
Source: A Simple Life
For a couple to be happy, two healthy people are needed. They talk about the concept of 'my better half'; what is needed is two oranges to juice together, whole. Because two half oranges, if you try to join them, no two oranges are made the same; if you try to join them you will see the joint. I believe that two healthy oranges have to come to the marriage, whole that bless each other in their health. Two oranges, a man and a woman secure in God, solid in God, with a healed, healthy ego of “I am as I am, and God loves me that way. I am deformed, perhaps a little fetish, smaller than I would like or skinnier but God loves me ”, and then with his health he blesses his wife and his wife blesses him.
We have to ask the Lord, Lord heal me emotionally. That I can accept myself as I am, with my virtues and my defects, with my past, with my mistakes, with my flaws, with the things that were done to me, with my wounds and saying that is what a life does. No one in this place can tell me that he has not had injuries in his life, that he has not received abuse, that he has not made serious mistakes, that he has no physical or emotional or spiritual defects. We are all in the same situation and the only difference is that some find balance in that and others live distorted and unbalanced, because they have not found that ability to accept themselves as God accepts them. For this reason, many times our human relationships are always being hurt and distorted because an unbalanced and sickly being damages everything it touches and that insecurity then leads us to, in any small offense or mistake from our friends, we immediately see something of unforgivable magnitude. , and we are hypersensitive. We are always hoping that they will stick the knife in our back because that is our vision of the people, and that makes the prophecy come true because sooner or later they do to us what we expect them to do to us. Whereas when the person approaches relationships with ease, with health, with expectation of blessing, with naturalness, people discover that there are many good things in others.
Why are so many people who fail in human relationships? Because they hope to fail or because there is some insecurity in them that leads them to hurt and hurt themselves. While there are others who naturally approach life and treat others and come out of the worst situations unscathed because they are healthy within them, and they take life and knock it down and get up because they are made of rubber. They are like those strong little children who jump in to play and nudge each other, scratch their elbows but come back again, and jump over homework again because they are healthy.
Accept yourself, seek your health in God and think of yourself with sanity. It is important that we accept ourselves as we are.
Source: A Simple Life
