Man, are you acting according to your role?

Message again of what the Lord led me to share with the brothers of the 12 o'clock service, and I am going to base it, by the way I have not made notes or anything because I want it to come out with the same spontaneity with which it arose last Sunday at 12. But I am going to use the passage that the Lord gave me in Ephesians, Chapter 5 beginning with verse 21 and from there I am going to elaborate....

It says “... submit to one another in the fear of God.” Notice that the first thing that says that we all submit to one another, then begins a call. I want to speak to men this morning and I want to speak to women also from the context of the family, from the context of marriage, from the context of fatherhood and motherhood, from the context of healthy masculinity and femininity that God wants to instill in all of us that we belong to his kingdom. God wants to restore the human relationships that were broken in the fall of man in the Garden of Eden. And God now wants us as children of God renewed and saved by the blood of Jesus Christ, that our family lives exemplify and reflect the healing image of Jesus Christ.

Then it says: “.... wives are to submit to their own husbands as to the Lord because the husband is the head of the wife just as Christ is the head of the church, which is his body and the He is your savior." There he is speaking to married women, to women.

Now he says to the husbands, in 25, “.....love husbands – that is a very strong verb, very powerful, very heavy,- love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

Perhaps the man wonders, well, how should I love my woman? What is this about loving my wife? I love her but I'm not sure, she doesn't feel loved anymore and how can I know if I'm loving my wife or not. Well, there it says how Christ loved the church. You have to look in the Scriptures for the way that Christ loved the church, and then you must use that as a norm and reference point for how you should love your wife. Love is not just an emotion. Love is not that warmth that we feel here in our chests when we first see a girl and fall in love with her. Love is something that acquires weight, acquires texture, acquires density, acquires quality, acquires depth with the passing of the years and that becomes more beautiful, more powerful even when passion wanes, our bodies weaken, lose their firmness. or its beauty or its definition, and the pregnancies have made the body a little weaker and the years have made the belly grow a little more. Or the ardor of life and the fire in our eyes have been lost, and we have fought many battles together and we have worn ourselves out together, and then love is where I think it takes on its true meaning. It is an act of the will. Love is a verb. Loving is a decision of the will. Many people divorce and leave their wives or their husbands because they say I have lost love, I am no longer in love, I no longer feel the same as I felt before, I no longer feel that vibration, I don't know what about that, I don't know about that how, that charm has been lost and therefore I no longer want to be a hypocrite and so they leave their wife or their children and go in search of a chimera, they go in search of that impossible thing that they think they will find in another woman or in another relationship.

But God says, no, love is an act of discipline. Love is a pact. Love is a promise. Love is something that you embrace because you once said before the altar, I am going to love this woman, I am going to continue with her, or I am going to love this man through thick and thin, in sickness or in bad. health, in poverty or in wealth, in all that life gives and in all that it takes away, we will be faithful to each other.

Then the Lord calls men to “... love your wives”, but also evidently calls women to love their husbands and tells the woman 'submit to your husband' and also tells him He says to the husband 'hold on to your wife' I believe in the sense that one holds on to the truth. And if the truth is in my wife, I have to hold on to the truth that is in her. Yes or no?

If the spirit of Christ is in her I have to submit to the spirit of Christ in her too. That is part of what God calls. Without confusing it, there is a relationship of subjection and leadership that God calls in marriage.

Then “....love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to sanctify her, having purified her in the washing of water by the word. So also husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.”

Now, when we go back, brothers, a long time ago to the book of Genesis, we see here something that God created man and woman to be complements, to love each other, to serve each other, so that there would be a relationship of deep intimacy.

The Lord said, “....for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will be one flesh.”

The intention, the desire of God, has been that marriage be a way for men and women to interpenetrate, not only sexually, in the act of love, but to interpenetrate in their spirits, their emotions, their perspectives , his way of seeing life and perceiving the world. When a man and a woman get married it is so that the man, over the years, learns from the woman's perspective how to look at the world. And that the woman learns to look at the world from the perspective of the man. It is so that the man and the woman together in their temperaments and in their configuration as a man and as a woman are in tune with each other.

The word of the Lord says that as iron, as the sword sharpens the other sword, so the heart of a man sharpens the heart of his friend. And there is something there in that the friction of the man and the woman in the context of marriage allows the man and the woman, with the passing of the years, to learn and become more like each other.

Have you seen couples who have been married for 40, 50 years and you look at them and they look like each other. The man has his masculinity and the woman her femininity but there is something that is like you are seeing a single person divided in two. It is a rare experience. That's what God wants for marriage, but guess what? That was what God did when he created man, but sin, the fall in Eden, when man sinned and disobeyed God, that intimate relationship, like everything else in nature and in the cosmos, was torn apart. , he was violated and that precious silk of the intimacy relationship between man and woman was torn by a dirty hand and with sharp nails that broke the veil and tore it; the veil of the relationship between man and woman.

And so we see here that a curse fell on the human race that we are still living it in our relationships between man and woman.

And it says in Chapter 3, verse 15, speaking to the serpent God said “...and I will put enmity between you and the woman and between your seed and her seed. This, the woman, will hurt your head and you will hurt her heel.

And then he said to the woman "... I will greatly multiply the pains in your pregnancy with pain you will give birth to children and your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you."

And to the man he said, see that each one received something, “...because you obeyed the voice of your wife, because the man also sinned. Sometimes we put all the blame on the woman, she was the one who made me sin there in Eden by giving me that apple to eat. We don't know if it was an apple or a pineapple, we don't know, but it was a forbidden fruit.

It says "... because you obeyed the voice of your wife and ate from the tree that I commanded you saying, you shall not eat from it, cursed will be the land because of you."

Even the earth was cursed, the cosmos “...with pain you will eat of it all the days of your life, thorns and thistles it will produce for you and you will eat plants of the field, and with the sweat of your face you will eat the bread until you return to the earth, because from it you were taken.”

You see, brothers, today we live in a fallen world that is reaping the consequences of that violation of God's will. And the relationships between man and woman still reflect that curse of sin.

And what motivated me last Sunday to change. I'm sorry I don't have more time to develop this message. What motivated me to change the subject of my message originally was when Sister Genoveva read that poem where she talks to a wife about being a support for her husband, when they are in fights to talk sweetly with him. And what I saw was that the image that that poem posed assumed a stable marital relationship of a husband and wife in a home, having their difficulties and their things, but solving them and growing through those difficulties, in good communication, and a stable marriage: a father, a mother, a wife, a wife, children and that couple with struggles but moving forward.

And while I was listening to that poem, I realized, brothers, I didn't realize because it is already something that I have regretted as a pastor, that in our church as in many churches throughout this nation and certainly in The society outside is even worse, many marriages do not respond to that stable, complete image of a husband and a wife, still struggling but harmonizing their struggles and moving forward and blessing their children and dealing with life together, hand in hand. hand and in blessing with each other. Because in our church as in so many other churches, unfortunately there is a lot of broken marriage, either in all honesty, and again this is not to make us feel bad. The good thing about the word of God is that it heals when it is preached.

And the word of God is sometimes like a harsh soap that we feel rubs our skin, but it cleanses us. Then one feels that freshness of the skin that has been stimulated and the pores have opened, and the blessing comes. Such is the word of the Lord. This is not for anybody to get uptight, or for anybody to walk out feeling beat up this morning.

But I realized that there are many unhappy couples at this time in the churches and in society in general. And not only are there many unhappy marriages, but sometimes there are few marriages, not even to be unhappy. There are many single women in our churches, many single mothers, whose marriages have been broken by one man's sin.

Many times, and brothers, here I want to be very careful. Men, relax, take a breath, breathe, I am a man and I am not going to beat you up, but I want to speak to you in the truth. So much marriage today limps or is broken because there are many men who have not exemplified, let's say, the image of leadership that Christ offers man. The image of Christ in us has been broken, it has been violated and we are not the man that Christ wants us to be.

In the counseling office, and my wife says the same, and the Vallés brothers who work in counseling, we can tell them and not only we say it, but many counselors, that there are a good number of married couples wounded or torn and destroyed by a man, many times, who did not play the role of a servant leader, or a servant leader in the home. There are many marriages today limping because we men have not played the role of integrity that Christ wants us to play.

I know that there are women who are also scoundrels. I am sure that there are rebellious women and there are women who also bring them. I am sure it is, and there are women who are also traumatized by life and their own injuries and sometimes, as María Ramo's kitten says, she throws the stone and hides her hand. And the woman is very skilled in that sense of playing the role of the victim and manipulating the man.

But, brothers, in all truth I want to tell you that most of the problems that society is facing today, with respect to the family, are due, I say this with respect, with fear and trembling, to a man who is not playing the part that Christ wants him to play.

Oh, it pains me to say that, because we all have something to do with it, even the one speaking here. And I have been married for 23 years and I still have to come before the Lord and tell him, Father, continue to heal me and help me to be an element, a benevolent and noble presence for my wife, for my daughters, and be a good example for my community. and for my church.

But, there are many men in whom the image of Jesus, and this is what the Lord tells me, that I perhaps did not develop so well last Sunday, but that the image of Jesus has been violated in many of us. The masculine image that God has wanted us to have has been violated and also in women today the feminine image of Christ is also being torn. And the devil is doing everything possible to destroy the original image that God wants to implant in us as a man and as a woman.

The church of Jesus Christ has to fight tooth and nail to rescue, return to the word and see there what God wants from a man and a woman so that then we can be healed by the holy spirit , we can transfer that image to our children.

There are many young people today who do not know what it is to be a man, because being a man is more than just something biological. There is a purely biological dimension to being a man, but there is a whole culture, a whole mentality, a whole behavior, a whole attitude, an ethic of being a man that is only learned with a man modeling that from childhood, in front of us, and Observing each decision, each intervention, the bad and the good of the man, little by little the child adjusts his image and his behavior and then learns to be a true man of God.

And there are very few healthy, healed men in society, particularly in Latino, Afro-American and other Third World cultures, although it is obviously a very serious problem in the Anglo-Saxon culture as well, but we can talk about the our. There are very few men truly exemplifying the character of Jesus. And there are many wounded women in our churches.

Many women who I believe are noble women, love the Lord, are not rebellious, they don't... I don't hear any women, at least here in this church, saying 'I don't respect that that the leadership of the man, the man is not the head of anything, here we are both equal, etc.' I do not hear that type of feminist version, at least in this church, but I do hear women who say 'I would like that my husband will play a more priestly, more pastoral role in my marriage and in my home'. Women who are longing for true leadership from a man rather.

And what does it mean to be a leader? That's why I say true leadership. We have... I obviously don't have time to develop that, but we have to go back to the Bible and see what it means to be a leader in the home. It means, brothers, the leadership that God has given us is rather a responsibility, it is a privilege that we have, he says, to love our women as Christ loved the church.

For me, being a leader in the home is a terrible responsibility because the well-being of my home depends on the decisions I make as a man and my behavior as a man. That means, brothers, that I have to do everything possible to get into the word continuously and try to know the mysteries of the word of the Lord, to know the teaching of the Bible so that I can learn to be a leader who blesses my wife. .

I believe that the first call of a servant leader is to make sure that his wife feels protected, that his wife feels covered by the authority of that man. Let his wife know that this man is a lion who is watching over her welfare at all times.

I believe that women also want security. The woman wants to know that her husband loves her above all things humanly speaking, that her husband will be with her at any time in her life, that it doesn't matter if she grows a beard, he will continue to love her, that he doesn't no matter what old age comes or whatever, he's going to stay with her there, because she's faithful to him and even though he's no Robert Redford, she loves him and cares for him and prefers him. And the woman wants to feel that security that when the years go by, he will remain faithful to her, no matter what comes.

The woman wants a man who communicates with her. We are closed and we live content and very comfortable within our own skin. And when we have problems and when we are upset, what happens? The woman cries, the woman expresses herself, the woman registers her emotions on the surface, but the man goes inside when life's problems come. And so we lock ourselves in and the woman wants access to us and she wants to come in and she wants to help and God made her that way to advise and support and affirm, but the man is locked inside himself and can't get out, like a prisoner inside his cell, he doesn't know how to get out. And what we do is the more we get into it and the more she wants to help, the deeper we dive inside ourselves. And we lose the opportunity to heal our wounds and to be ministered to by her.

A woman wants a man who admits fragility, who when he doesn't know what to do, or when he's afraid, or when he's made a mistake, who has the courage and integrity, and the softness and meekness of say, 'I made a mistake', or say 'I need help', or say, 'look, you know better at math, so you do the math. I am going to delegate that to you as an executive does. And you keep the accounts', and that does not impoverish you, that does not weaken you, that does not threaten your masculinity. On the contrary. Only a self-confident man can have the courage to tell a woman 'I need help'.

How did Christ love the church? Christ never monopolizes leadership. Notice that Christ always shares the leadership. When he left he left 12 disciples and many followers and told them, 'preach the Gospel. Go into all the world and I will be up there interceding for you and I will send the holy spirit to carry you forward.'

He could have monopolized the evangelization of the world by sending a cherub, a seraphim to that he preached the Gospel, that he doesn't eat or need a salary, or make mistakes, or anything, and already had the whole world evangelized. Imagine appearing to someone and saying, 'convert'. He's not going to convert right away, of course he is. One has to sweat and beg and twist in twenty thousand ways for someone to receive.... But no, God wanted us, his church, to accompany him in the preaching of the Gospel because he wanted to develop in us the gifts and qualities of a servant of God, a man and a woman who exemplifies the character of Christ, and therefore allows us to work with him. And that is why we men also have to share leadership with our women, help women to enter into their full humanity; encourage our wife to learn, to study, to develop her spiritual leadership, to grow as a human being and in everything that I can encourage my wife to become a better human being. I have to do it, and if I have to wash dishes for three months until she gets her GED or takes a college class, I should gladly do it. When I have a stronger woman, I will be happier. Amen. Besides that perhaps she, by earning more money, I will be able to have more beautiful things in my house. Intelligent is the man who shares with his wife and takes her to another level.

Many times men want to turn our women into rag dolls, and then when we turn them into rag dolls we despise them and go after the beloved, the rebellious, the daring, the one who violates the laws because you know what? no man wants a rag doll for a wife.

But we kind of have a contradiction in our mind. We want a woman who is a fiery lover but we also want a piece of meat who obeys everything we tell her and doesn't question, and so we're fighting on that and we hate the woman and turn her into something else that we later despise. .

And God wants a man who has enough masculinity to feel content next to a fully realized woman. God wants us to be friends in marriage and how difficult it is for a man to have a friend. Because we, our parents, were often taught not to trust anyone. And only our parents and they talked and opened up when they had a bottle of rum stuck in their stomachs. So they talked and said nonsense.

And what we have then is an incompetent image of fragility and communication. Instead of having a healthy image of a man, sure of himself, who is willing to share his fragility. And that opens the heart of a woman. When a man becomes fragile, brothers, look, that's the greatest aphrodisiac for a woman. When a man is sensitive to her and a man is fragile and communicative, the woman grows and her femininity opens up and her heart as mother and lover is then more open to the touch of the man, to the approach of the man.

But when a man is closed and so macho and so hard that he breaks easily, because he has no flexibility, that is not pleasing to a woman's heart.

So, brothers, all these things we have to make an effort in the name of the Lord so that God opens that aspect of our life. and you know what? I am in agony because it is already 11 o'clock and I am going to continue for a while longer because brothers, forgive me the teachers, forgive me the teachers but there are times when... if God wants to minister perhaps we are going to be a week behind in classes I don't know, but we're going to take a little more time. Please give me that.....give me that prerogative as a pastor and I kneel in front of the teachers and I apologize for this, but there are times when if we want to do God's business we have to....I still have to prepare a very delicate presentation, but this is more important, the moment of the Lord here.

Because God wants to bring healing to families. Because, brothers, every Sunday we come to church and we sing choirs and I am already tired of standing here preaching and preaching and preaching but many times there is a wound in the body of the church from which the church is bleeding to death. And society is bleeding too.

You know why tonight we have to go to Tremon Temple for a televised service to sound the trumpet about the crisis that is in this country regarding homosexuality, and gay marriage. Why is there so much doubt today about sexual identity? Why are there so many men with their wounded masculinity feeling doubt about their sexuality? Why are there so many men nowadays attracted to other men? Looking for an apparition in other men like these desert mirages that when you jump on them they disappear, because they were just a mirage. Thus today the homosexual man is looking for a masculinity in another homosexual that he does not have within himself.

Why do you think the homosexual movement emphasizes so much the muscles and the body? When a homosexual reaches a certain age, he has already lost his marketability, let's say he is no longer attractive. You don't see that in homosexual culture it's all young men and muscular men. Because? Because in the homosexual movement there is an essential insecurity about masculinity. And the homosexual hopes to find that masculinity that he does not have in another masculine, and by possessing him, because every sexual act is a desire for you to possess the other and enter inside the other and become one with the other. And the homosexual feels insecure about his masculinity and is looking for someone else who in that union, or in that relationship, gives him what he does not have.

But what about? That the other is in the same problem, then they can never be satisfied. And that's why homosexuality becomes a man-to-man, to man, to man addiction. The promiscuity in the homosexual movement is incredible. Hundreds of couples in a year many times.

Because there is that, and why have we reached that point? Partly because society, including the church, is not playing its proper role and there are many men who are sick, not healed, in their own masculinity and the devil has taken it upon himself in this society to create so many imbalances at many cultural levels in society, that there are a terrible virus attacking our youth, our children.

The devil has taken it upon himself to fill men with anxiety, to work, and the economy in this country forces us to work so much, to neglect our children and sometimes even the church steals the time we we have to have with our children and we are tired, and we are neurotic and we are rebellious against the world, and we are sick and we do not have time, we do not have emotional or spiritual reserves to share with our children and take time for them, but the devil will He has entrusted us with putting us, like the Israelites in Egypt, giving us loads to work, work, work, to weaken us and weaken the image of God in us, so that we cannot transfer to our children the masculinity that they need so much.

So we are creating disoriented children, insecure children, and when they do not fall into homosexuality, they fall into the other extreme, which is violence. Why is there so much violence in the African American world, for example? The bargains. Because a huge percentage of African American men are in jail and because another percentage is growing up in homes where there is only one mother and no father. And more than 40% are born out of wedlock and that is also happening in the Hispanic culture.

And so our children are growing up without modeling and many times when they have a father physically present at home, they don't have him emotionally present at home.

So there is no ability to transfer the masculine image to the man. When we lived in our villages in Guatemala or Colombia or the Dominican Republic, there was a whole social mechanism that allowed the masculine image to be embodied in the heart of men through uncles and cousins, and grandparents and friends and neighbors who all helped to create a healthy image of a man. But today and still it was not a healthy image, let me tell you. Because it was a sometimes exploitative image of women, but at least there was that masculine, manly part that was given.

But nowadays, no. Today the environment in which we live is hostile to the healthy image of a man and a woman, to the formation of a healthy image of a man or a woman. And it takes much harder work to produce healthy men and women. Because now you have to do it by hand. Before, at least society was a little cooperative. But nowadays when you go to a school, perhaps the teacher of that child is homosexual or perhaps the principal is pro-homosexual and your son is going to be presented with a positive image and he is going to be told, look, if you are heterosexual or gay doesn't matter Choose what you want. What are you feeling in there? And then be true to what you feel.

Unless a child doesn't have a healthy image, it's going to be very difficult. And what are the young women being told? Young girls are taught as I said, to encourage and exalt their sexuality, wear provocative clothes, show off their bodies. There are so many young women insecure of their femininity, brothers. Today a young woman cannot trust that if she reflects the values of a woman in the sense of seriousness, honesty, feminine sensitivity, she cannot trust that this is enough to find her a partner.

Nowadays young people, men are in the driver's seat, they are in the driver's seat and they say 'well, I have to try the merchandise to see before I decide'. And the young women are competing with the sexual and they believe that they have to surrender first and if they don't play the little game of sexuality they are not in the market and they are not going to have a boyfriend, or they are not going to one day have a husband and fewer and fewer young women They come to marriage virgins because there is in them an essential insecurity of what it is to be a woman.

And many times the woman learns a lot from her father. It is not only from the mother that a young girl learns what it is to be feminine. There is a very important element that a woman needs when she is young and a girl, to have her father's warmth to learn what a man's touch is, and to learn to trust a man and to learn to open up to a man properly. And for that, you also need healthy fathers and you also need mothers who are role models for their girls.

It is very important, women, that you adopt your adolescents, both your daughters and others. I ask the Lord to raise up in our León de Judá church a collective community that we be like a village, all together, a great tribe watching over each one of our adolescents, modeling what a healthy femininity is, adopting our adolescents and showing them what the character of a woman truly healed by Christ Jesus is.

That we watch over our girls and the men that we ask the Lord for the strength not to take advantage of the fragility of women today. And sisters, I also tell the women that we teach our daughters and ourselves not to tempt the male, not to manipulate the male, not to use it, because when... what is there in the image of Genesis Chapter 3 says that the implication in the original Hebrew is that the woman was going to be manipulating the man, and resenting the man's leadership. And the man was going to rule over the woman.

And we have to say, no, to those destructive patterns. That is not what God wants from the church of Jesus Christ. We have to, both women have to ask the Lord to heal the image of women in this culture where the image of women has become sexualized. And women today are a commodity, even at a time when women's liberation and women's power are exalted, women have lost value in this time.

And today the woman is rather the one that is being sold and exchanged as if she were an object in the gender market, man and woman and marriage. Because the woman is inherently, let me tell you, the woman is powerful in many ways, many very powerful ways and she has the power to destroy, to lift up a man, but she is also fragile.

There is something in a woman called pregnancy and childbirth and the constitution of her body, which makes her inherently fragile. The woman is strong in spirit and in emotions but in her body there is a fragility. The man does not get pregnant, the woman gets pregnant. And God has created the woman with an emotional, spiritual, mental wiring that when the woman violates that configuration of God, she is off her axis and is out of her position of power, and then she falls into the traps of man, exploiter and falls in the devil's snares.

Today, then, there is a tremendous mismatch in society. The sexes are completely off their axis, their definition. And in the church of Jesus Christ there has to be a healing and a revolving of the original image that God had for marriage.

Men, God is telling us that we have to repent of much behavior that does not honor the Lord. And you know what? that when we do it and begin to change and recognize that we are not being what God wants us to be, instead of being defeated and losing respect, we will truly begin to be happy then.

The blessing will begin to flow in our lives, because the word of the Lord says that when a man is harsh with his wife, when a man oppresses his wife, when a man is not flowing in the true priesthood that Christ has delegated to the man, his prayers are stopped. Man falls under the judgment of God, he is walking in weakness and his spiritual life does not flow with the same effectiveness because the Lord has declared certain things. When we flow according to what God has declared, there is blessing. When we rebel, be it a man or a woman, there is a curse and there is judgment.

When we align with what God commands, our masculinity is restored, it is blessed. Our children are strengthened, our women revive like a bush that has been without water for too long and begin to flow again in their femininity and we ourselves feel comfortable knowing that we are within the will of the Lord.

What there is today in many churches are men who give money, serve, sing, evangelize, rebuke demons, but deep in their hearts they know that there is a department that they are denying and resisting. and it is that healthy, noble, gentle, fragile leadership of service that God wants us to exercise.

You know, man, when you're weak then you're strong. When we become weak in obedience to the Lord and we become friends with our women, and we become a resource for our children and our women, when we repress the natural laziness of the male, because that is in our biology, and we assume the mantle superhuman presence of Christ Jesus in us, then we become a benevolent hand, a soft voice, a help to our wives and our children, a resource, a source of love, advice, a good word, to ask for forgiveness when we make a mistake, to restore things when we water them, as the Dominicans say, brothers, the blessing comes to the home, the blessing comes on man, the blessing comes on the child.

I pray to the Lord that God will restore marriage relationships and male-female relationships in this church. And I speak also to the young, to the unmarried, to the singles who are thinking of getting married, and I say, parents, teach your children to be a benevolent presence in your home. Teach them that there is nothing wrong with a man putting on a towel and washing some dishes or learning to cook, or making a bed, or folding a sheet, or ironing a shirt. That beautifies men, that makes them more masculine, more manly, more human, more complete. And that makes him happier in marriage because a rested and supported woman is a better lover and is a better friend. Yes or no? There's the answer.

And again, I'm not, I hope that nobody feels beaten by this, brothers. Because this is the word of the Lord who is dealing with us and with our lives. And women, if you have a man who is making an effort and who is showing signs of wanting to change, and who is trying his best, look, encourage him, encourage him, love him, acknowledge that he is making an effort, and any little signs of life that is in it, encourage and fan it so that it grows more. Don't accuse him when he makes a mistake, because the transformation takes a long time. Shepherd it one way, right? and cheer him up. Any sign of transformation say 'Glory to God. Hallelujah!’ Dance, jump around him and bless him and encourage his leadership.

Woman, when you rebel, Christian woman, in particular, when you rebel against male leadership, a healthy leadership, know that you are off your axis, because the Lord has given man leadership , mysteriously because the truth is that I believe that there are so many women who would be better leaders than us, but God has chosen the man to be the leader in his home. And there is a blessing, both for the man when he enters into healthy leadership, and for the woman when she gladly accepts the leadership of her husband. There is blessing.

I believe that a marriage, and that is the problem, look, a marriage where the man is a passive being or an oppressed being who is not being allowed to play his proper role, or has simply abdicated and he has rejected his role as leader, as priest in the home, it is a lame marriage, it is a marriage in weakness and it is a marriage where the woman and the man, both, and the children are going to pay the price. That marriage is going to be bleeding to death.

And many times, unfortunately that is the sad thing, that we men have made it difficult, if not impossible, for our women to accept our leadership because we are not making healthy decisions. They don't feel safe. They do not feel like their children are in good hands, nor is the household finances in good hands. And with a leader like that, they don't dare go into battle, because they know that their heads will be blown off in the first war they face.

So it's not that women don't want to accept leadership, but we haven't made it easy enough for them to accept our leadership and so we put them at a disadvantage. Because we are forcing them to fulfill a function for which God did not design them.

I believe that women have a lot to give, it's like I say, for me women are more powerful in spirit and emotions than men, because men are emotionally fragile. Just as he is physically strong, so is his masculinity and security fragile. And the woman is a hedge.

I believe that when God said, I will make Adam an ideal helper, what he meant is, I am going to create a being that complements him in such a way that that man is totally strengthened on all sides. I am going to give this being, which is the woman, some qualities and a personality configuration that equips and strengthens it and helps it. And I think that's what women have.

Now, when a woman does not play her role like this, when there is a weak woman, not filled with the spirit, who is not filled with the word, who is not filled with the image of Christ in her, a A woman who is always bleeding her femininity, seeing silly things and not seeking the anointing of the Holy Spirit, that woman will not be able to be the ideal help that this man needs.

But when the two flow into their calling, and the man is exercising his leadership, his priesthood, his calling, and the woman is supporting him and being a warrior, and the man delegates to her certain functions and he does the others, and the two of them work as a team, listen to me, there is an incredible blessing in the home. And the society is blessed, and the children grow like plants planted beside cool, clean streams. And that is what God wants for the church, for this church.

We live in a culture, brothers, that has lost its compass. There is no definition, there are no definitions, everything is to be negotiated and reinvented, and for that you are paying the price. Today, more than ever the church of Jesus Christ is being called to receive what Romans, Chapter 12 says, "...do not be conformed to this age but be transformed through the renewal of your understanding."

In other words, let's not get used to the world, let's not accommodate ourselves to the culture in which we live, but let's transform ourselves through our thinking, our patterns, being renewed through the word of God continually running in our lives.

There is a call to men and women today and in the church above all. Every time we talk about homosexuality and this and that we get thrown in the face, but if the church has as many divorces as the world, if there are so many disgruntled women and so many married couples limping in the church as out of the church, who? are you to be telling us how to live?

Yes, many of those homosexuals even come from Christian homes where there was no father who got inside those men to instill his masculinity and security in those young people. And in we have to change. God cannot be mocked nor will he be bribed by your money, nor by your singing, nor by your dance, nor by your tongues, nor by your service, if you are in disobedience.

The Lord Jesus Christ says, "Why do you say to me, Lord, Lord, and do not do what I say?" Remember that? The eyes of the Lord penetrate to the depths and go through the foliage of our superficiality and reach the heart and if there is inconsistency there and there is rebellion in a man or a woman, the Lord points his finger at it and says, until you fix it that my blessing is not going to flow in you as I want it to flow.

So the first ones who benefit are us, man or woman. God wants healing in the churches, brothers, God wants to heal us. And I want us to take a moment, finishing up, thanks Samuel, you can start playing something there.

I want to take a moment to call all of us, brothers, I did it at 12 and I want to do it now so that we come to account as the Lord says. Single and married, young people, we are going to promise ourselves that in our land we are going to integrate the values of the Gospel letter by letter, word by word, sentence by sentence, commandment by commandment, beginning by beginning, we are going to trace the Bible from Genesis to Revelation to discover the laws and commandments of the Lord and we are going to integrate them into our masculinity, our femininity, our marriages, our paternity and that is where the healing and blessing of God will come on our lives, on our church, about our community.

When the church is healed, when marriages are healed, when the Christian family is healed, there is going to be healing in society out there. Because the church is the mother of nations. And if the mother is sick, the family will also be sick.

The Lord is calling us to repentance and is calling us to become aware that we are a holy people, set apart. What did God mean when he said, a holy people to Israel? He wanted to say, a people who lived in a different way from how the nations around you live.

The men of the church of Jesus Christ have to be different from the men of the world. It is an insult to the holiness of our God when there is no difference in the way Christian men behave from how men without Christ behave. It is an insult when women behave, Christian women behave in the same way as those who do not know the Lord. It is an insult to holiness and to the promises of the Gospel when our Christian couples are limping from the same ailments and the same ugliness as those couples who do not know the Lord. And it is an insult when Christian spouses do not exemplify Gospel values and live as the world lives.

It is time for that to change, brothers. It is time for healing to come to the people of God, for an awareness and a confession of sin to come and for us to say, yes, Lord, I recognize that I lack a lot and I am not ashamed to admit it and I ask you to help me. Sanes and that you free me and that you help me in this purpose that I make of being a man, a woman that exemplifies the transformation that your word carries.

And I want to ask every male this morning to feel convicted by this word and if you don't feel, please have the courage to remain seated, but to stand up for a moment and tell the Lord, Father, I want you to heal me and I want you to make me a man who exemplifies those values of the Kingdom of God.

Stand up and receive. Turn down the volume a little bit, Samuel, a little bit.

And receive that word and examine yourself. I want to ask you to come forward here for a conversion, an act of witness that we do. There is no shame in this, my brethren, but there is healing and restoration rather.

Receive the word of the Lord, we are going as men to reconvert and we are going to promise ourselves that we are going to be a blessing to our family, we are going to be a blessing to our community, amen. I join my brothers as I did last Sunday, because I also need a touch from the Lord and I also need to examine myself and make sure that... because I know that there are things from that word that fit me. me too. And I join my brothers this morning in asking for that healing in my life, in my marriage and each one of us here in our wounded masculinity.

We need healing from the Lord this morning. And we are going to ask the spirit of God to plant this word deep in our hearts and to develop the whole message in the rest of the week, to continue speaking to us by the holy spirit.

And, sisters, I ask you to pray for us at this time. Stand up and bless these men who need, need, God's touch in our lives. And brothers, help us here, the boys.

Let's cry out to God and know that you are right now in the place of power, which is the place of humility and the place of repentance and recognition. There is no place more powerful than when we humble ourselves before the truth of God.

Cry out to the Lord. The Bible says “let us examine our ways”. Let us examine our ways because the Lord is faithful to forgive, the Lord is faithful to extend his hand, the Lord is faithful to restore. What God is waiting for is a minimal sign, often of coming closer, of subjection to the values of the Kingdom of God to begin a healing work in us.

Let us ask for forgiveness when we have exploited women. Let's ask for forgiveness when we have abused our sexual energy. Let's ask for forgiveness when we have abused the insecurity of so many women in this time. Let's ask for forgiveness when we haven't played the role we should play as parents in our homes. Let us ask for forgiveness when we have let work, money and fatigue rob us of the privilege of blessing our children with our masculine warmth.

And let us also rejoice in seeing God's blessing beginning to flow in our life from now on, if we take this to heart and say 'Father, I am going to dedicate myself to exploring and examining what he wants say to be a renewed man, a healed man, a blessed man, a man who reflects the character and supreme masculinity of Christ Jesus.

And we are going to work together, brothers, we are going to be priests in our homes and in our community. We are going to exemplify the ministerial service leadership of Christ Jesus.

Lord, we love you and hold ourselves to your truth. We ask your forgiveness for not living up to your call and we desperately want, Lord, on this morning that you heal us and bless us and that you create a church made up of healed men and women.

Teach us, teach us how to raise healthy families, how to be suitable husbands for our women. Speak to us, Lord. Speak to us, heal us first, Lord. Heal our wounded masculinity. Heal the image of Christ torn and violated by sin in us. Heal the sins of our ancestors that still live in us.

Heal the wounds and bad examples that still touch our minds and make us resist the truth of your word. Heal us, Lord. Cleanse us and make us more like our Lord.

Thank you, Father. We stand in the gap this morning and so we ask for this fallen society and we ask, Lord, make us right now that representative humanity on which your healing falls and spreads to the streets, the neighborhoods, the houses, the communities of our city so that that city may be restored and blessed and so that the accusation of the devil may be neutralized and blessing may come to our city.

And it starts with us first. We constitute ourselves as representatives of that fallen and needy humanity. We ask for your blessing Lord. Your blessing. Heal us, heal us, heal us, heal us.

And now I want the women to also ask them to do… have their own moment of confrontation with the Lord. Perhaps you have been hurt and you have been scandalized by the behavior of a man in your life, it may have been your father, it may have been your husband that you have, or your husband who left you and went with another, or he despised you or you He was so violent that he filled your glass and you left the relationship. It could be the man who raped you as a child or abused you and you carry those burdens.

And I want to ask you in the name of the Lord right now to throw that at the feet of Christ and no longer live with those thoughts, that resentment. You are a daughter of God restored, healed, liberated, beautified by the presence of Christ. You're a princess.

Christ healed your wounds. The mark of that man is no longer in your spirit or in your emotions. Christ healed them, it all depends on you keeping it in your mind but it is simply a fiction, it no longer exists. In itself it does not exist and if you release it right now and leave it at the feet of the Lord to embrace what God has for you, the future is a fact in the name of Jesus, in the name of Jesus.

And if any hurt from your husband in the past is preventing you from giving yourself fully to him and once again embracing the call to work together for a happy marriage, I beseech you in the name of Jesus say, Lord, I will to give one hundred percent, I am going to make an effort together with my husband. I forgive him, I forgive him in the name of Jesus and I thank you for the signs in him of restoration and I will continue to work with him this morning and hereafter to work together for a blessed marriage and for our children be blessed too.

And let's all, as one, renounce the devil's curses on our families, those accusations, those legal rights that he claims over our lives and our homes, and let's say, no more, Satan in the name of Jesus. I am going to do my part and I trust in the grace of the Lord for the rest.

And we make our homes temples of the holy spirit, refuges for our children, and for those who arrive there injured as well. We are going to pay the price, brothers.

God wants repentance from his church. God wants healing for his church. Before the healing that the world needs out there, the church has to be healed, the church has to pay the price. A healed church is irresistible, a healthy church, a church that is moving in the axis of power of the word, brothers, is an atomic bomb in the middle of hell, it is an example, it becomes immensely attractive.

So we are going to ask the Lord as miners to explore each nugget of gold that is in the word of the Lord and we integrate it into our lives: the small and the big, the daily and the sublime, everything, the Lord wants us to integrate it, men, women, we are going to embrace the call of God this morning. Amen.

Lion of Judah this church, Father, tells you, heal us, heal us, heal us, Lord and forgive us, Father, because we are far from being what you want us to be but Father, we will not resist your call We are not going to disguise it, nor are we going to call it something else, nor are we going to pretend that we do not listen to it, we know what you are calling us to and we embrace it and we are going to fight with it, Father, until your word wins in us.

We are not going to get out of your embrace, Father. Change to this church, Lord. Change her, heal her, send your grace, send your grace, Lord, on this church, on those who are far away and on those who are near. We make a pact, Lord, this morning to walk and obey all your commandments, particularly as it applies to your family, the family of God. Thanks thanks. Thank the Lord. Receive the call of God in your life.