Healing Mismatched Sexuality

Without the sound advice of the Word of God, sexuality leaves its fence like a wild steed that for the moment rebels, kicks the fence that contains it, and runs off, destroying everything around it. When man steps out of the safety net of God's Word, he inevitably leaves a heap of rubble behind him. One of the first things that the devil tries to damage and corrupt is the sexuality of man and woman, their masculine and feminine identity, as we see in this time.

Satan knows that sexuality plays a central role in the life of a man or a woman. Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, declared that human sexuality is the driving force of society. It possesses incredible power. It causes wars, and it also inspires poems; it is an incredibly creative force, and also a destructive one. It is a divine energy, but it can also turn demonic.

The devil knows the power of that force, and that is why when he wants to deliver a death blow to a society, he first goes to its sexuality, and begins to tear pieces and pull wires, and to inspire man to begin to play and experiment with that. delicate mechanism. It is a sublime but extremely fragile mechanism. Once it is destabilized, how do you restore it to its original balance? Only God, who designed it, knows how to do it again.

The more modern man experiments with human sexuality, the more he distorts and destabilizes it. The more you try to break free from the sexual boundaries set by God, the more you become disoriented and bleed out. When a society bleeds into its sexuality, everything else is destabilized — the family, parenthood, government, moral, ethical, religious values. Chaos is sown in society.

In the modern world we observe, for example, a society where femininity has gained an unbalanced degree of preponderance. We can see times in history when masculinity becomes demonic and oppressive. We see countries in the Middle East, for example, where men pervert and oppress women by literally putting them in a sack, turning them into a sad object with no life of their own.

But society can also go to the other extreme, where femininity becomes an equally oppressive and suffocating force. There is a feminine sensitivity that can subtly penetrate, establish its influence everywhere and color everything. In countries like the United States, this phenomenon manifests itself through a growing homosexuality, castrated fathers, insecure men, a ridiculous and inept masculinity, as we see it reflected on television and in Hollywood. We see it in religion too.

God made women and men for certain specific and complementary roles. When the man does not occupy his place and the woman takes that space that the man abandons, then destructive models begin to emerge, and society loses its course and its sense of direction. That is why at this time the Church has to be a place where men embody a healed masculinity, and women reflect a femininity according to God's design.

We have to ask the Lord that our Churches be places where the problems of sexuality or gender, of sexual identity can be adequately processed. What does it mean to be a man or a woman? What is God's balanced design for a husband or wife? And then, as we work on that issue according to gospel values, by rectifying our home, rectifying our masculinity, rectifying our femininity, we can be a reasonable and enlightening voice for our society out there.

Seeing our homes functioning according to God's model; when seeing manly and tender men, when seeing feminine and firm women, and sure of themselves; when seeing a man and a woman living together and taking the appropriate place each in a beautiful dance of complementarity, society will say, "I want that too." Then the values of the Kingdom of God will be able to offer a valid, attractive, credible alternative to that world out there that desperately needs those values.